24/7. That’s your job description, mom.
The days, and (especially) the nights, can seem endless. Especially at the beginning of your journey into motherhood. You don’t get showers, you don’t get sleep, you don’t get a break. You feel like you can’t mom anymore.
It’s hard to ask for help. It’s hard to admit that you’re not the supermom you thought for sure you’d be.
But you need to.
When you can’t mom anymore
The burnout, the emotional tears, the yelling—all of these things are symptoms of a deeper problem—but one that is actually very easy to fix.
You just have to do to this one thing.
Give yourself a break. Literally.
This can be as simple or complex as your situation allows for, but at minimum, get the kids in a safe area (where they can’t harm themselves or others for a few minutes), walk in the other room, and breathe. Sip your coffee. Listen to a favorite song.
If you’re able, get your partner or a close, reliable relative or friend to take over for just 30 minutes so you can take a walk by yourself, or get a coffee nearby. Longer if you feel comfortable.
THE POINT IS: recharge “you.”
And then go back and hug them.
Though the only name you may hear all day is “Mommy,” you are still YOU. Just because you have little people who rely on you for everything now doesn’t mean you no longer have needs yourself. Fill up your tank (on a regular basis!) so you can fill up theirs, too.
You still have favorite things. Make pockets of time to do them. I know, it’s impossible. But if you don’t ask for help sometimes, it’s easy to start feeling like the sky is falling, and there’s no one to dig you out. It’s easy to start crying. Or yelling. Or just plain feeling like you’ve got NOTHING left.
You can be supermom again.
TODAY: I challenge you to ask for help. Do something uncomfortable. I DARE YOU. Make the change that will give you the peace to be a better mom.
To be you again.
How I’m changing
I’m really bad at this. But I’m choosing to let hubby take over sometimes now, and just going places and doing things. Taking trains and getting lost and finding my way again.
One of my favorite “me time” activities recently was reading this book by Nicholas Sparks. OMG, I read a book! Seriously though. There are not many romance novels I will read, but Sparks gets me every time.
The intrigue, the relational bonds (both expected and unexpected), the twist… I don’t want to give it all away because IT’S JUST THAT GOOD, but there are so many points in this book that leave you hanging on every word, and transport you to the character’s world. Sparks is such a vivid writer, and it shows on each and every page.
And now, I can’t wait to see the movie. It’s going to be spectacular.
Anyway. You’ll also want to watch this official trailer. Because it looks absolutely epic.
Go recharge yourself and see The Choice. It’s in theaters today! And tell me what else you’re doing to be a better mom.
You’re the best, after all.